Triangulation
Two-person conflict gets detoured through a third person instead of resolved.
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Shrink Definition
Triangulation is when tension between two people gets managed by pulling in a third, rather than being resolved directly. The third person absorbs stress, takes sides, or becomes the topic, which lowers the heat without fixing the problem. It's common in families and workplaces. The relief is temporary and the original issue stays stuck.
Plain language
Handling tension between two people by pulling in a third.
Shrink Insight
A third party can lower the heat while leaving the fire burning.
Why it matters
It keeps conflicts unresolved and puts the third person in a strained middle role, common in families and teams. Spotting it lets you route issues back to the people who own them.
Common misunderstanding
People think venting to a third party is just seeking support. It becomes triangulation when it substitutes for addressing the person actually involved.
Shrink Perspective
Detouring conflict through others postpones it rather than solving it.
Shrink Reflection
Where am I the third point of a triangle that's not mine to hold?
Shrink Step
When tempted to route conflict through someone else, take it to the person directly.
Shrink Minute
Notice one triangle you're caught in at home or work.
Shrink Takeaway
Conflict resolves between the two people who actually hold it.
Medical boundary
This concept is educational and shouldn't be used to self-diagnose. It doesn't replace care from a licensed clinician. Symptoms, medication, and treatment decisions should be discussed with a qualified professional, and emergency symptoms require emergency care.
Evidence summary
A well-described pattern in family systems theory, supported mainly by clinical observation.
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